Themself or themselves?

13 Jan

They used to just be a plural word, referring to a number of people and having the standard reflexive form of themselves“There were many people in the queue. They were all told to help themselves from the buffet”.

But we are seeing more and more usage of they and them as a singular, to avoid clumsy uses of  he/she or him/her followed by himself/herself. Then, by extension from the him – himself or he – himself formation of the reflexive, people are starting to use themself as the reflexive. “If a child is confident, they may be able to help themself to water”.

This does seem to be sensible, and it’s something I think I’ve used myself (there’s another one!) in the past. However: no more! Because, having been asked about this via Twitter, I looked it up and found that actually themself is not regarded as “good English”. And we like good English on this blog, don’t we?

So the reflexive of singular they and them is themselves, and my above example should read: “If a child is confident, they may be able to help themselves to water”.

An easier one, I suppose, in that one is correct and one is incorrect – you don’t have to remember different usages, just not to use themself. Make that we don’t have to remember …

You can find more troublesome pairs here and the index to them all so far is here.


Posted by on January 13, 2012 in Errors, Language use, Troublesome pairs, Writing


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3 responses to “Themself or themselves?

  1. Sal Findlay

    January 13, 2012 at 1:36 pm

    Good point. I think people don’t want to say “he” or “she” all the time so we’ve all started to say they or them to be more gender neutral. That then leads to the “they may be able to help themself to water” whereas twenty years ago we would have said “he or she may be able to help him or herself to water” only usually back then we always went for the male only. Interesting how language changes. the more we use it the more normal it will sound though.


    • Liz at Libro

      January 13, 2012 at 1:37 pm

      Yes, it is an interesting one, isn’t it. And shows that even if people start using what would seem like a sensible word formation, sometimes the “official” although odd sounding one will still win.



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